It makes me sad that the older women I’ve talked to lately all seem to have the same story… they are unhappy in their marriage and are either planning to leave or are hiding back-up money from their husbands (just in case). They warn me that I need to watch out for myself and be there for number one – me.
Well… I don’t agree. Or at least don’t want to give up anyway.
“Yes, I’m young. Yes, I’m a newly wed. But that doesn’t mean that I don’t have to work hard to keep a strong relationship with my husband.” I want to say. He and I have been together for 11 years now and we’ve had our ups and downs like anyone else. It just makes me ache a little for women who feel like there is nothing they can do and that they’ve used up time that they could have been happy in their relationship instead of lonely. I hate to think what it would be like to be unsatisfied with my partner… the person who is there for you when you want to talk, laugh, share, cry or grow with. It’s a given that fights will ensue about the dishes or helping out around the house… but that’s so small compared to the big picture. Right?
“Ashley, start taking money out every time you go to the grocery store and put it in a secret bank account.” Really?? Is that what I have to look forward to when I’m 40? Then I don’t want it. I wish more people would step up and tell me that they are genuinely happy and they have a great relationship with their spouse – that they wouldn’t quit on the other person. Because that’s where I am… I hope if you’re reading this, you’re where I am too.
Haha, Happy Valentine’s Day.